7 Ways to live a more Relaxed life

7 Ways to live a more Relaxed life

The past 8 months of my life sent me and my family into a bit of a spin and I had to find ways to stay positive and resilient. So I wanted to share my tips on how I live a more relaxed life with you.

Since my breast cancer diagnosis in November 2015, we’ve bounced from one minute being stuck in limbo, not knowing what’s coming next to the next minute being passed between a hundred and one doctors and specialist appointments and frantically busy.

Life got very difficult, very quickly. In fact I can easily say that the cancer diagnosis and treatment has been the hardest thing I’ve ever had to face in my life.

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I’ve been so lucky to have a network of fabulously supportive family, friends and medial staff to help me through each stage and I’ve also come up with ways myself on how to get through it all and stay as calm and relaxed as possible.

Here are my 7 ways to live a more relaxed life:

1.  Declutter

I’ve mentioned many times my love for the Marie Kondo book, “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying” and how much it changed my life. I read this book during my chemotherapy treatment and just the process of reading it was therapy in itself.

I loved reading how Marie grew up with a love for tidying and putting things in their rightful place and how, over time, she had developed a method of discarding those things that no longer ‘sparked joy’ in her life but holding on to and treasuring the things she loved the most.

I’ve since applied this method not only to my physical things and digital life but also to the people in my life too. I now surround myself with people and things that I love, that spark joy for me and this ultimately makes me a much happier and relaxed person.

2.  Plan Ahead

I’ve always been a list maker but this year I’ve found forward planning my whole life has really helped me feel more in control.

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I love the process of sitting down on a Sunday, grabbing my weekly planner and planning everything I can for the week ahead. I go to bed on a Sunday night feeling calm and really looking forward to starting the week to come. I actually film these weekly planning sessions on my YouTube channel, if you’d like to see the process of how I plan.

3.  Get more sleep

Some people fall asleep as soon as their head hits the pillow but sadly I do not. As an insomniac for many years, on and off, sleep is something I struggle with. I don’t need to have anything weighing on my mind to not sleep but when I do it really does make it worse.

I’ve learned over the years to try not to stress about not being able to sleep and to sleep when I get the chance to.

Usually by the end of each week I’m so exhausted that I have a very early night, at about 7pm. That usually lets me catch up on the hours I’ve missed and makes me feel so much fresher and brighter.

Try to get to bed early as much as possible, sleep is so healing and whatever your worries are, they’re usually not quite so bad after a good night’s sleep.

4.  Meditate

I started studying meditation during my first pregnancy when I practiced Hypnobirthing. Self-meditation during the births of my two babies changed my life and how I viewed childbirth and I’ve been able to use the breathing techniques I’ve learned so many times since, other that the births.

When I’m feeling stressed or need to calm my mind, I can use these breathing techniques to take me to my ‘happy place’ and reset my mind. I’ve found this invaluable during some of my treatment, especially the scans and waiting for results.

5.  Exercise

Exercise was something that had to go on hold during my treatment when I felt too fatigued or ill but since that finished, I’ve really enjoyed getting outside more and breathing fresh air.

Feeling the sunshine on my face, taking in deep breathes, clearing my lungs and my mind has all helped me to feel more relaxed and happy.

Now I’m able to start some gentle exercise, I’ve really benefited from that too and the resulting weight loss and increased fitness is making me feel even happier.

6.  Treat Yourself

I don’t know about you but allowing myself the occasional treat really perks me up and makes me feel more relaxed. Rather than over-indulge and face the guilt afterwards though, I’m learning to apply a little more moderation to those treats.

For me, it’s chocolate! Thankfully I’ve discovered a healthier option with these Loving Earth chocolates – review here.

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Your treat might be a massage, listening to music, a mini shopping trip, a weekend away, time on your own away, a long, leisurely bath. Make sure you take the time out to treat yourself once in a while – it makes all the difference!

7.  Laugh

They say that laughter is the best medicine and they’re not lying. Being able to laugh at my situation, see the fun in some of it and sometimes just use laughter as a distraction has pulled me through.

At times when my mind has been clouded with bad news and scary thoughts, a phone call with a friend who always has me in hoots or watching one of my favourite comedy shows has given me 30 minutes away from the dark thoughts and taken my mind off things. It’s been my ‘time out’.

These are the 7 things that have helped me live a more relaxed life during some very trying times.

I’m positive that that from here, life can only get better!

What helps you to relax and cope with difficult situations?

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  1. Ria Langner
    24th August 2016 / 6:26 am

    Such a positive and warm post! I have taken a lot of advice from it too. I’m definitely going to give that book a whirl, keep up with meditation, try and get more sleep and attempt to treat myself a little more! Big hugs x

    • 24th August 2016 / 8:59 am

      Thank you, I’m do glad it helps! :)

  2. 24th August 2016 / 8:45 am

    Love this. I really need to laugh more :) I do plenty of the decluttering and planning though x

    • 24th August 2016 / 8:56 am

      Oh I know – laughing is the best therapy isn’t it :) x

  3. 26th August 2016 / 5:03 pm

    I find decluttering so therapeutic to my mind. When so many things are messy i my mind already I find a tidy and organised environment helps soothe me. #THELIST

    • 26th August 2016 / 5:45 pm

      Oh me too! x

  4. 26th August 2016 / 5:47 pm

    Adore this post Hun, such important points here, have to tried yoga, really helps me sleep xx

    • 26th August 2016 / 5:50 pm

      Thanks beautiful :) I have done yoga in the past but not for such a long time – I think that’s a great idea :) x

  5. 26th August 2016 / 6:17 pm

    Fabulous tips – I am planning a massive declutter session when the kids go back to school – it’s all a bit overwhelming at the moment!

    • 27th August 2016 / 5:55 pm

      Thank you so much – it really does get overwhelming but you feel so much clearer afterwards :) x

  6. 27th August 2016 / 6:58 am

    Oh I agree with these! Especially decluttering and planning. I love the Marie Kondo book, it’s definitely helped me become tidier.

    • 27th August 2016 / 5:53 pm

      Thank you :) Isn’t it the best book! x

  7. 27th August 2016 / 7:33 am

    Love this! I love to plan and makes list, I feel more relaxed and in control. I definitely need to declutter and laugh more x #thelist

  8. 28th August 2016 / 9:39 pm

    These are 7 really great tips on how to relax more. I really do think things like decluttering and laughing more can take such a weight off your shoulders. I definitely am going to be trying to do more of these things more often. Great list Mim :-) Emily #TheList

    • 29th August 2016 / 3:00 pm

      Thank you lovely! x

  9. 28th August 2016 / 11:10 pm

    Your calm positivity is an inspiration and this is a great list. Laughter always does the trick for me and my husband knows that’s always the way to help when I’m feeling low. I really want to try the Marie Kondo method but just don’t know where to start, we have soooooo much clutter.

    • 29th August 2016 / 3:00 pm

      Oh thank you so much :) The book will change your life! x

  10. 29th August 2016 / 4:15 am

    Laughing is so good for you!

    I recently started a bullet journal and I can feel myself visibly relaxing as I plan in it.

    I also need to get back to meditating, it helped so much when I gave birth

    • 29th August 2016 / 3:00 pm

      Ah isn’t planning addictive? x

  11. 29th August 2016 / 8:01 am

    A fab post, some awesome ideas. I need to put some of these into practice myself.

    • 29th August 2016 / 2:59 pm

      Thank you lovely :) x

  12. 29th August 2016 / 12:50 pm

    Great tips. I’ve heard lots of good things about the Marie Kondo book – I must read. T’s so satisfying to have a good declutter. Exercise is my biggest stress buster. But I must be better at unwinding too and getting to bed early. Thanks for sharing. x

    • 29th August 2016 / 2:58 pm

      Thank you and I can’t recommend the book highly enough :) x

  13. 29th August 2016 / 6:10 pm

    Ooh I love these tips huni, I have said it before but you are totally inspirational! xxxx

    • 29th August 2016 / 6:46 pm

      Thank you beautiful! x x

  14. 31st August 2016 / 11:13 pm

    I so need these tips right now – thanks for sharing! And I can’t believe how tidy your drawers are!! #thelist

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