5 Ways the Second Pregnancy is Different to the First
Regular readers will know that I had a bit of a love/hate relationship with pregnancy. Clearly the obvious plus point is the bouncing baby that finally makes its appearance at the end! There are so many ways that my second pregnancy is different to the first though.
I hadn’t bargained for some of the other side effects of pregnancy though and you can read about those here.
I was a little bit naive and had a romantic notion that I would sail through pregnancy, blooming and glowing with the best of them.
Nausea, back ache and pelvic pain ensued and many hours were spent googling each and every tiny new symptom and side effect.
Second time around, things were a bit different. I was different – not quite so naive, anxious and, well, clueless!
I was inspired to write this after reading Hannah at Budding Smiles post about the 10 things she had forgotten about pregnancy!
Here are the 5 ways that second pregnancy is different to the first – for me anyway:
1. Embracing maternity clothes earlier
First time around, I remember squeezing into my non-maternity clothes for as long as I could get away with.
Maybe it was my way of convincing myself that I wasn’t piling the pounds on or because I didn’t want to waste money on clothing I would only wear for a few months.
Second time around, I was in those comfy, stretchy maternity leggings like a shot!
As a lot of ladies do, my bump did show much quicker with the second baby but that wasn’t the driving force.
I just wanted to embrace the fact that this was my last pregnancy, as I only wanted 2 kids, and I wanted to be comfortable in doing so!
2. Double the exhaustion
I thought I was tired in my first pregnancy and I slept badly in both but add an energetic toddler into the mix and the opportunities for rest are few and far between!
Luckily, my toddler is a good sleeper (most of the time) so I did get a little sleep at night and a pregnancy pillow helped a bit too.
My advice to anyone who’s pregnant and has children already is to take advantage of any offers of help from family and friends – rest when you can as after the baby arrives, there won’t be much of a chance to.
3. Twice the size in half the time!
Ok I might be exaggerating just a little bit but when they say you ‘show’ faster second time around, they’re not kidding! I had a baby bloat bump from almost day one and while I didn’t put on a huge amount of weight in total, I did get bigger much quicker with the second pregnancy.
Which made hiding it in the first trimester very difficult!
4. I was way more confident
This came in 2 ways – firstly, I was far far far less anxious about being pregnant the second time. I’d been there and done that and due to having an uncomplicated pregnancy and birth first time around, I wasn’t concerned the second time.
Secondly, when I was pregnant with my first baby, everyone and their dog seemed to thrust their unwanted advice in my direction as well as their horror stories about labour and birth. Second time around, this just didn’t happen, well why would it – brilliant!
5. Less time to plan and to dwell
A double edged sword in a way. On one hand, I was so busy working and looking after my toddler that I didn’t have much time to worry and over-analyse my symptoms the way I had in my first pregnancy.
On the other hand, when I was pregnant with my first baby I enjoyed 9 months of planning every last detail of what I needed to buy, prepare and plan before the baby’s arrival.
Despite feeling like both pregnancies dragged a bit for me and even though I was overdue with my second baby, I just never got that quiet time to devote to planning.
Well with a toddler and now a baby too, there isn’t a great deal of quiet time full stop! I wouldn’t change it for the world.
What did you find was different in your second pregnancy? Did anything surprise you?