5 Things I Regret Doing after Having Kids
Despite wanting to be a mother all of my life, and feeling like it was never going to happen, motherhood actually came with a bit of a bang for me.
I expected my life to change of course, to become busier, chaotic, messy, exhausting. All of those things.
I quickly resigned myself to sleep being a thing of that past and having such little time to myself in the day time that I had to learn to be productive after hours.
I’ve always lived with being somewhere between being an insomniac and a night owl. I love sleep, I LOVE it but it doesn’t always come naturally to me. I could manage it pre-kids because at some point, after a long week of sleepless nights, I would eventually just crash out and get a decent stretch of sleep to reinvigorate me and clear my mind.
When you have one child, let alone two, finding that time to catch up on sleep can be pretty much impossible and for me, sleep deprivation means one thing…stupid decisions! Especially after my first baby was born.
There I was, baby in one arm, caffeine/sugar-infused drink in another and ready to take on the world. Or so I thought!
So here are the 5 things I regret doing after having kids:
1. Listening to too much advice
Before I go on, let me clarify that I LOVE hearing advice from others. When it’s welcomed of course. What I do regret is letting myself get so wound up by the vastly different advice I got from friends, family, strangers in the street and of course, Dr Google.
“Let the baby sleep.” “Wake the baby up.” “You’re not feeding them enough.” “Are you feeding them AGAIN?” Argh, shut up!
I was an anxious first-time mum who just wanted to be prepared for everything that might happen or might go wrong so I allowed everyone to pass their pearls of wisdom on to me, even when unwanted.
I wish I’d had the guts to, politely, tell some people to shut the fluff up and let me just get on with things. You know, politely.
2. Cutting all my hair off
I know I know, this is vain and so so predictable but after my first baby was born it just dawned on me that life would be so much easier if I chopped half of my hair off. It just would, wouldn’t it?
So two weeks’ after she was born I hopped on the bus to the hairdresser with elbow length hair and hopped out with a Bob. True to tradition, regrets followed swiftly, possibly as quickly as the next day. My Samson-like strength disappeared with my hair as it was swept off the salon’s floor and in it’s place was a different-looking me that I wasn’t ready for.
Plus let me tell you, bobs are NOT easier to manage than long hair – the opposite in fact! And my hair takes years to grow an inch.
I did warn you that this one was vain.
3. Not trusting my gut instinct
Let’s pop back to the aforementioned omniscient entity that is Google. Dr Google.
In the early
days months I would spend my time googling the most ridiculous things, worrying about such unnecessary stuff. Mainly sleep related!
I thought that the only person who knew more than Dr Google did was my Mum – and oh yes, she really does! I just wish I’d trusted my own gut instinct on so many situations too instead of whipping myself into a frenzy by googling EVERY ‘new mum’ situation I was faced with instead of just using my own common sense.
I’m much more relaxed second time around, I will add!
4. Eating too much
During my first pregnancy I ate so well and only gained 9kgs which was perfect for my baby and pre-baby weight. After I had her, I lost the baby weight in 6 days. SIX DAYS! It just went.
“Ha ha!” I thought as I lost a bit more whilst munching on chocolate biscuits, “this is EASY!”. And it was, because for me, breastfeeding was burning away those calories and my baby fed often.
But then she started to sleep through the night which of course was wonderful but by then I was eating enough Tim Tams for ten and that weight slowly crept its way back on. And on. Damn it!
This is why I signed up to Weight Watchers fairly soon after my second baby was born. Whilst I didn’t want to lose weight rapidly, I just needed something to keep me in check so I didn’t go crazy again.
5. Not taking more videos of the babies
I don’t want to turn into a parent who spends more time clicking a camera in front of my kids faces than actually enjoying their company but I do wish I’d taken some more videos of them because I just love watching them back!
I do have some though, and it isn’t like I can take videos of everything they do. I just need to keep reminding myself to take more as the baby years don’t last long.
How about you, any regrets or rash decisions after you had kids? Anything you’d do differently or any advice for new parents?