5 Things to Expect When You’re a New Mother

5 Things to Expect When You’re a New Mother

Ever wondered what to expect when you’re a new mother? I didn’t quite know what to expect when I became a mum for the first time in 2013.

Well, I suppose I expected the obvious things – to be up all night, to have sore boobs from breastfeeding and to have a baby join our family!

There were a few things I did not expect, however.  I know better second time around but it doesn’t always get any easier!

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Here are the 5 things to expect when you’re a new mother:

1.  Lack of Sleep at Night and All. Day. Long.

As I’ve already said, I completely expected to be up all night with a sleepless newborn – that’s a given, isn’t it?  I did not bargain for that same baby to survive on little sleep in the daytime either.

And for my babies, no sleep means crying – a LOT.  I have been blessed with adorably cute but high-needs, crying babies.

When my babies are not being fed, pushed in the pram or walked in the sling, they’re probably crying.

I expected to spend my days sitting on the sofa/in cafes/in the park cuddling my babies and us blissfully gazing into each other’s eyes. No no no.

Thankfully for my daughter the sleeplessness only lasted for the first couple of months until she got bored of the drama and settled down. Phew!  Hopefully her little brother will follow suit.

2.  ‘2 Minute’ Showers

Ooh , how I used to love a long, leisurely shower or a soak in the bath with a book and (large) glass of wine.

Those days are over.

Well, for at least 10 more years I suspect.

With a newborn you are time-poor – to the extreme.  Every second of every day revolves around taking care of your baby and quite rightly so.  I cannot scrimp on a shower though, I just can’t.

I’ve got my showers down to a fine, 2 minute art now.

That’s just about enough time to feed the baby, put him in his bassinet, slowly and silently edge backwards out of the room, ease the door closed, turn the shower on, wash the ‘essentials’ and turn the shower off hoping, wishing and praying that the baby hasn’t awoken and screamed the house down.

Showers are no longer relaxing, ‘me time’.  They are a well-rehearsed, fairly terrifying, panic-inducing military operation.  Thankfully the pregnancy hormones dried my hair out to a sufficient enough degree to only have to wash it twice a week.

3.  A Brand ‘New’ Body

Squishy tummy?   Stretchmarks?  Extra-wide hips?  Not quite the ‘new body’ that most ladies are hoping for.

Pregnancy takes it’s toll on us all differently and thankfully those cute baby bundles are more than worth it!

4.  Becoming Invisible

What a difference a (birth) day makes. One minute you’re pregnant and lapping up the constant attention, lovely compliments and smiles from strangers.

The next, the baby is out and way cuter and more interesting than you.

You are now invisible.

Which might be a good thing sometimes as you may not wish to show off your sleep-deprived, ‘2 minute’ showered, squishy self to everyone too soon after the birth!

When the baby arrives, you hand your spotlight over to them.  Everyone wants to talk to the baby, cuddle the baby, ask how the baby is and before long you might start to feel a bit neglected.

Fear not, they’re just overwhelmed by the excellent work you’ve done in producing such a wonderful, bundle of joy! Stay smiling and congratulate yourself on a job well done, even if some forget to tell you themselves.

5.  Being asked when you’re having the next Baby

I’ve saved my ‘favourite’ one til last.  You know who I’m talking about – those baby ‘bullies’ who unwittingly think it appropriate to pry so far into your personal life as to ask when you’re ready to conceive again before you’ve even passed your six week check up.

I know all too well because I was once one of them.  In my slightly naiver, childless days, “when are you having the next one?” was one of my most-uttered questions to my parenting friends.

I know better now.

These days, after having baby number 2, I pre-empt that question before anyone has the chance to think of it, let alone ask it.

“This is my new baby boy and I love my children but I’m never, ever, EVER having another baby ever again” seems to do the trick quite nicely.

What about you, what surprised you when you became a new parent?

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  1. 25th June 2015 / 9:57 pm

    Love this!
    I was surprised that I was still carrying baby weight months after (I still am, 15 months later!) – I completely thought it would just drop off me in days!! Ha ha!

    I was also shocked to discover that I wasn’t ready for a night out a week after giving birth. I thought as soon as id given birth I’d be all systems go. I still laugh about this, it took me 9 months before I had anything resembling a night out.

    I couldn’t believe how long it took me to get out of the house either with a baby – this one still puzzles me. Xx

    • 26th June 2015 / 3:44 pm

      A night out? Out – at night?? That’s definitely a thing of the past :)

  2. 25th June 2015 / 10:32 pm

    Oh yeah, all of the above! I was nodding along throughout x

    • 26th June 2015 / 3:45 pm

      Ha ha glad it isn’t just me! :)

  3. 26th June 2015 / 12:08 am

    Ha ha! I love this. I love baths and I found it so hard to have to give up my leisurely soaks. Good for my water bill though :)

    • 26th June 2015 / 3:48 pm

      That’s the only positive – cheaper bills! I do miss a nice long soak in the bath :)

    • 26th June 2015 / 3:50 pm

      Make the most of the longer showers now ha ha! :)

  4. 26th June 2015 / 9:53 pm

    Oh my gosh, you’re so right. The 2 minute showers and lack of sleep are still on going for me! I never knew that becoming a parent would mean that I would never go the toilet on my own!! X

    • 8th July 2015 / 9:25 pm

      Ha ha oh what a treat it must be to have a wee in peace! :)

  5. 27th June 2015 / 8:20 am

    Oh my goodness, I agree a lot with all of these but I’m getting a lot of number 5 at the moment, driving me crazy! I’m still stumped at how anybody physically survives the sleep deprivation second time around…when I work it out I might consider another :-)

    • 8th July 2015 / 9:27 pm

      Weirdly enough the sleep deprivation isn’t as bad second time – I think because I’m permanently exhausted anyway! :)

  6. 28th June 2015 / 9:03 am

    I can sympthasise 100%, long gone are the chances of us having any ‘me’ time. Makes you wonder how you filled your days before the babies came along doesn’t it.

    • 8th July 2015 / 9:27 pm

      That’s so true – I think it involved a lot of wine though :)

  7. Fatima @ Baby Toddler Me
    29th June 2015 / 12:33 pm

    I love this list! Having just had my third baby 11 weeks ago, I can completely relate. The thing that surprised me was how organised I could be (and had to be!) on so little sleep! We mamas are amazing creatures! x

    • 8th July 2015 / 9:28 pm

      Oh congrats on your third!! :)

  8. Emma's Mamma
    30th June 2015 / 11:02 am

    So true! Great post! The sleep depravation and the showers get better with time though. Until you have baby no 2 lol #TwinklyTuesday

    • 8th July 2015 / 9:31 pm

      One day, when the kids leave home, then I might sleep :)

    • 8th July 2015 / 9:29 pm

      It shuts them up before they start to talk! :)

  9. 30th June 2015 / 10:24 am

    For me, it was the sheer exhaustion and how long it took to be able to do a normal walk without feeling out of breathe! It’s hard work this labour business. ;o) xx #TwinklyTuesday

    • 8th July 2015 / 9:30 pm

      Oh gosh that’s so true! :)

  10. 30th June 2015 / 8:48 pm

    I remember all of these things so well and I still get the when are you having the next one now…all the time! Soooo frustrating! Zach liked sleep, he just liked it on me. If I dared to put him down, that was it, awake and crying! So I spent much of my time stuck to the sofa watching box sets! Despite all of this though, I hope it is all going ok for you and you are loving being a mummy of two! Thanks so much for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

    • 8th July 2015 / 9:32 pm

      Oh my babies are the same – they’ll sleep for hours being held! Which is lovely of course :)

  11. 1st July 2015 / 6:42 pm

    Yes to all of these! I’ve just become a new mum and couldn’t agree more with these! motherhood well portrayed here! I’m craving a long bath and a full night sleep…!

    • 8th July 2015 / 9:33 pm

      Ah thank you! And I second that :)

  12. Eimear
    2nd July 2015 / 12:35 pm

    Couldn’t agree more!

    • 8th July 2015 / 9:33 pm

      Thank you! :)

  13. everything mummy
    3rd July 2015 / 10:43 am

    All so true, being invisible i totally relate with when your pregnant its all can I do this for you let me help here sit down.. when babies here its ill hold the baby you do what you want haha thanks for linking up to #sundaystars

    • 8th July 2015 / 9:37 pm

      Ha ha that’s right – completely neglected after the baby’s out! :)

    • 8th July 2015 / 9:34 pm

      I used to ask it all the time – I had no idea how annoyed I must have made people oops! :)

  14. 3rd July 2015 / 6:28 am

    So so true. Love your answer to last question. I find it amusing to hear the parents who do not want more kids (me being one of them) because when asked if they do they say “No’ with such intensity (thats me) or slightly manic laughter. Great post. I didn’t know what had happened to my life after my first son. Amazing, wonderful and in love. All true. But my life had scarily disappeared including the luxuries of sleeping, eating meals, time off, lunch breaks etc etc. Great post. #thelist

    • 8th July 2015 / 9:36 pm

      That’s so true – our lives have completely changed forever! :)

  15. 3rd July 2015 / 11:00 am

    All very true. Having a new baby IS lovely but very. hard. work. Lots changes and the asking when our next one is, we have two! When you’re focusing on the crazy, time-consuming little lovlies you already have, no-one is thinking about more.

    • 8th July 2015 / 9:38 pm

      That’s very true – but they can’t help asking anyway! :)

  16. Stacey
    3rd July 2015 / 8:35 pm

    The new body, still trying to get used to this. The baby weight is a lot harder than I thought to get rid off. It definitely doesn’t just fall off. #thelist

    • 8th July 2015 / 9:38 pm

      Oh I wish it fell off too :) we’ll get there :)

  17. 3rd July 2015 / 9:02 pm

    Ah yes, the cloak of motherhood invisibility. It seems to work particularly well whenever I’m struggling along a busy pavement or trying to get through a door with a pram and toddler :) I think the main thing I wasn’t prepared for was how much time a little person can take up and that it is possible to get from one end of the day to the other without getting anything done a part from feeding and nappy changes :) #thelist

    • 8th July 2015 / 9:39 pm

      Ha ha oh that’s right – change, feed, change, feed, repeat! :)

  18. 4th July 2015 / 4:50 pm

    Oh my goodness, those 2 minute showers! My daughter is 15 months and I’m still having them. And on the rare occasion I do have a bath, I find myself thinking that the time could be much better spent sleeping! xx

    • 8th July 2015 / 9:41 pm

      Ha ha that’s a good point – there is always something else to do and never any time to do it! :)

    • 8th July 2015 / 9:41 pm

      I’m glad it isn’t just me :) :)

    • 10th July 2015 / 1:50 pm

      Ha ha I know! They can’t help themselves! :)

  19. 14th July 2015 / 7:57 am

    I can definitely relate! I’ve never been so tired in my life until I had a baby. I love sleep! I never took short showers. Husband always let me shower or I’d stick my baby in the swing. I don’t like the squishy stomach or the stretch marks. I wish they would go away. Yes, being invisible! Nobody cares if you’re coming to a family get together.. they just want to see the baby. :( I thought more people would ask when we’re having our next baby.. but only a few have.. mostly family! Great post. I found you on #TheList

    • 18th July 2015 / 2:27 pm

      Oh thank you so much! How things change once babies arrive :) :)

  20. 15th July 2015 / 9:38 am

    Yes to all! For the first 15 months of Baby’s life most of my showers included her! (as she hated the bath!) Thanks for linking up to #TheList xx

    • 15th July 2015 / 9:43 am

      One day, we’ll have time for a long, relaxing bath…one day! x

  21. 16th July 2015 / 8:53 pm

    Oh what a list! All so very true particularly number 4. Life certainly changes when a baby arrives but wow, what an experience and gift x #thelist

    • 16th July 2015 / 8:58 pm

      It’s funny isn’t it – one day you’re the centre of attention and the next, you’re of no interest! No-one can resist the charms of a cute newborn :)

  22. Nige higgins
    22nd August 2015 / 5:28 pm

    Great list and every one so very true really good read #supersaturday

    • 3rd October 2015 / 7:13 pm

      Thank you!

  23. 22nd August 2015 / 5:45 pm

    Love love LOVE these!!! Especially number 5 – I always pre empt with ‘yes, I have three boys, yes they are hard work like all kids can be, no I’m not trying again for a girl’. Thanks for linking up to #SuperparentSaturday

    • 25th August 2015 / 7:22 pm

      Ha ha I don’t blame you – I bet that shuts them up…for a bit at least :) x

  24. 22nd August 2015 / 8:54 pm

    I totally agrees with these, especially the showering. And don’t get me started on actually trying to have a bath without someone joining me!


    • 23rd August 2015 / 11:48 am

      Ha ha I would LOVE a nice relaxing bath! :)

  25. 2nd October 2015 / 10:19 am

    Oh yes this and so much more! More honesty needed on this front so less women stumble into being a mum blinded my the shock of it all! #TheList

    • 3rd October 2015 / 7:13 pm

      Gosh that’s true – no one warned me…of any of it! x x

  26. Jodie Allen at Budget Beauty and Babies
    13th November 2015 / 10:01 pm

    I totally agree with all of these! Especially the becoming invisible point! It seems that since we had our daughter our families no longer want to see us! haha! If we call and say we are popping round the first thing they say is “are you bringing Lexie” and when we are there…. well, i’m sure you know how it goes! #TheList

    • 14th November 2015 / 10:55 am

      Ha ha me too – it’s all about the lovely little people! x

  27. 14th November 2015 / 9:20 am

    “A brand new body” – most definitely! I’m sure my whole bone structure changed after having my babies! x

    • 14th November 2015 / 10:52 am

      My ribs never returned to normal! x

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