I have a New Car!
I have a new car! In collaboration with Partsales.
The reason this news is particularly exciting to me is that I haven’t had my own car in 14 years!
To cut a very long story short, I was in a car accident in 2002 when driving on the motorway in the UK. A car tried to pull into my lane, the driver hadn’t seen me, and I had to swiftly pull over to avoid a collision. Another car was in the way on that side and after some frantic manoeuvring to avoid hitting either car, I instead went into the central reservation. In rush hour traffic. Yikes.
It was scary but I was ok and my lovely little Yaris, survived to drive another day. Unfortunately, not so much by me.
I was really affected by the accident. I was so confident in my own driving ability but I lost all faith in the damage other drivers can do. The other driver in this accident wasn’t a terrible driver, she just made a mistake. I was in her blind spot.
She was found at fault but the case dragged on for a couple of years and, after getting back behind the wheel quickly at first, one day I just decided to stop driving. I gave up. I became the passenger instead.
I didn’t give up without a fight though! I saw a psychologist to talk about it all and I underwent cognitive behavioural therapy but it just didn’t really work out. I kept trying to drive and did sometimes but one day, I sat behind the wheel of my Yaris, on my driveway, and I just cried. And that was that.
I didn’t drive again for another 12 years and I didn’t even try to. I knew I would one day but it had to be when I was ready.
So for 12 years I’ve had to be the passenger, or take public transport – which is actually fine for those of you who drive everywhere! I’ve endured people telling me I’m lazy and stupid for not driving. That it’s about time I ‘learned’ to drive, that it’s selfish and unfair on my kids and husband. Honestly, the crap people say. Idiots.
My friends and family have been amazingly supportive though and they knew, as I did, that one day I would drive again.
So 2 years ago, I decided I was ready. I was still nervous but I was ready to start again. I made it one of my New Year’s resolutions to start to drive again.
I had a couple of refresher driving lessons with a lovely instructor and it really was like ‘riding a bike’ in that it all came back to me like second nature. Of course I had some anxiety and had to spend some time re-learning the “highway code” but even as a passenger for so many years, I knew all this anyway. My anxiety of being in a car means that I rarely switch off, I’m always trying to anticipate what other cars might do next and so I’m always very aware of my surroundings.
It’s different though when you’re the driver and you are responsible for a vehicle.
The two lessons went really well, so much so that the instructor told me he didn’t want to see me again because I was doing so well!
So out I went on my own, in my husband’s ginormous four wheel drive! Well, when I say ‘on my own’ I mean with him in the car too. This was when we were in the UK 2 years ago and we’ve since moved back to Australia.
It was always my intention to get my own car and drive over here – I’d never driven in Aus before but at least it’s the same side of the road! Then I got breast cancer and had a slight set back but now that’s all out of the way, I’ve finally got my own car again.
After doing a lot of research online, I finally decided to get the same beloved Yaris that I’d had 14 years ago. They’re renowned for safety, easy to drive and have plenty of room for my little family.
I’ve had my new Yaris for a couple of weeks now and I’ve been out practicing at every opportunity.
While I was researching online for cars, I discovered Partsales. It’s a new online marketplace that allows customers to conveniently find car parts and accessories they require.
I have a new car! lovefrommim.com Refresher Driving Lessons Getting back on the Road Partsales Finding Car Parts
For someone like me who knows nothing about cars but is an expert at online shopping (!), this website is perfect. You can search by vehicle or the part you’re looking for and it comes up with a list of results – easy! So when I need new parts or accessories, I can find them easily myself which only adds to me feeling more independent.
I LOVE my new car, I love that it’s all mine. I love that it’s a safe car and this time I got an Automatic so it’s very easy to drive. There are fewer things for me to worry about so I can relax more about enjoying driving.
I still have some anxiety but I know in time, with a lot more practice, that will fade and I’ll get back to being the confident driver I once was.
It took me a long time to get to this point but I always knew I’d get here and it would be when I was ready. I’m so happy to be driving again and can’t wait to share the adventures I get up to in my new little car!
Do you have any tips for gaining more confidence with driving?