1. 16th July 2015 / 8:24 pm

    It is amazing how different everyones experience is! I love it. I’ve had three wonderful birthing experiences. One of this was back labour, but all of mine started with a heat radiating through my spine at the very bottom. The back labour was the most unpleasant and took a while but all very good! The most intense, final three contractions were the only ones that really felt serious to me!
    This is a great post and I hope will give a mum to be an idea of what to expect! xx

    • 16th July 2015 / 8:36 pm

      Thanks Zara! I find it so fascinating too how everyone’s experience is so different :) I also had the dreaded back labour twice – naughty babies :)

  2. 17th July 2015 / 7:13 am

    What a great post! It really does highlight how every experience is different and you can’t predict how your own labour will be based on the experiences of others. I remember having dull back pains and cramps, but up until the last moments when I was about to push, these pains weren’t really that bad, and I had quite a lot of fun in labour! Although that could be the gas and air talking!

    • 17th July 2015 / 7:16 am

      I love that you had a fun labour! It doesn’t have to be screaming in agony like the films try and have us believe :) x

  3. Helen
    17th July 2015 / 7:16 am

    Such a great post – and it shows how individual labour is! I had THE worst back pain, I seriously thought my daughter was going to come out of my back. My labour was also longgggg – waters broke on Tuesday and didn’t give birth until friday afternoon! All worth it in the end though :)

    Helen x


    • 17th July 2015 / 7:18 am

      You’re so right – whatever we’ve gone through to get the baby here, it’s instantly worth it as soon as they make their appearance! :)

  4. 17th July 2015 / 9:12 am

    I managed to have two babies without ever experiencing what a contraction felt like so labour is still so foreign to me! Very helpful list for first time mama’s though!

    • 17th July 2015 / 10:26 am

      Ah thank you! :)

  5. 17th July 2015 / 11:27 am

    Great post! It really brings it home how very different labour is from one woman to the next.

    I gave birth 8 weeks early so I hadn’t really got round to asking friends and family what it was like. For me the pain was unlike anything I’d ever experienced but in a strange way it was a positive type of pain. Pain with purpose. :-) Each contraction just completely took me over and all I could think of was getting to the next one and the next and then meeting my baby.

    • 17th July 2015 / 11:46 am

      Thank you! I felt the same – each contraction was me getting closer to meeting my baby :)

  6. 17th July 2015 / 11:42 am

    Oh my goodness, I can’t believe how different everyone’s experience was! Hoping I’m one of the ones who doesn’t really know it’s happening! ;-) xx

    • 17th July 2015 / 11:54 am

      Have you heard of hypnobirthing? I really really recommend it for that :) :)

  7. 17th July 2015 / 1:27 pm

    This was fascinating to read, all the experiences were so different! I think that sort of proves the point that you can’t really prepare yourself for labour, even if you’ve been through it before you still don’t know what it’ll be like this time. I think all you can do is relax into it, and trust your body and those taking care of you. x #TheList

    • 17th July 2015 / 1:59 pm

      That’s such a good point – especially about relaxing and letting your body do what it’s supposed to do :)

    • 18th July 2015 / 3:59 am

      Thank you! :)

  8. LittleOandme
    18th July 2015 / 11:25 am

    Great post. I was a little nervous of reading this, as I still have some flashbacks from labour. It’s so interesting how labour is so different for everyone. I would love to look into hypnobirthing for baby number 2. My son was 6 weeks early and I just wasn’t prepared, I would like to make sure I’m physically and mentally ready!
    Becky xx

    • 18th July 2015 / 11:36 am

      Thanks Becky! I can’t recommend hypnobirthing highly enough – I felt so prepared and excited for the birth after just the first class :) x

  9. Jen @ 4,128 miles
    21st July 2015 / 11:43 am

    Yikes! I remember it well the first time and I was overwhelmed by the pain. It is really interesting to hear everyones’ stories. They are all so different. I had a precipate labour – as soon as the midwives actually believed me and understood what was happening it was fine! I’m hanging onto that for number 2… Great post. #twinklytuesday

    • 21st July 2015 / 5:39 pm

      You totally have to trust your own body don’t you! Only you really know what’s happening :)

  10. 21st July 2015 / 7:57 am

    Oh I love this. Wish I would have found it before I’d had little miss vista. It’s so useful.
    And well proven that no two labours are the same. Great post :-) #TwinklyTuesdays

    • 21st July 2015 / 5:40 pm

      Thanks so much and you’re so right – it’s really different for everyone! :)

  11. 21st July 2015 / 8:41 am

    It really is so different for everyone isn’t it? I adored my labour and birth, I want to do it again!xx #TheList

    • 21st July 2015 / 7:04 pm

      Aww that’s so lovely! I loved mine too – although definitely not having any more ha ha! x

  12. 21st July 2015 / 8:53 am

    What a brilliant post, really highlights the fact that labour is different for everyone. As far as labour goes mine wasn’t too bad, had a water birth with gas and air. It hurt like hell but much more manageable than I was expecting. This post will be useful for lots of pregnant ladies I’m sure xx #TwinklyTuesday

    • 21st July 2015 / 7:05 pm

      Ah thank you! The water is wonderful pain relief isn’t it :)

  13. 21st July 2015 / 9:11 am

    I just always say to my friends that you’ll know when it’s labour, if you keep thinking ‘could this be it?’ Then it probably isn’t. I was shopping in Tesco when I went into labour with my 2nd,
    I was only 31 weeks and knew immediately xx

    • 21st July 2015 / 7:06 pm

      Wow that could have been big news for Tesco if you’d had it there ha ha! x

  14. 21st July 2015 / 12:45 pm

    Thank god I’m stopping at two is all I can say. I had a section with No.1 and then a VBAC. Glad I got to experience both but happy to never do either again!
    The only description anyone else gave me beforehand that rang true in the moment was that crowning felt like ‘a burning ring of fire’. I even cried, between pushes: ‘This is the burning ring of fire, isn’t it?’!


    • 21st July 2015 / 5:38 pm

      Ha haaa!! I was prepared for that but never got it! I am also totally and completely finished at 2 :) :)

  15. 21st July 2015 / 3:45 pm

    I’ve had 2 labours and neither were great but I would probably still do it all again if I had to :-)

    Helen – #twinklytuesday

    • 21st July 2015 / 5:37 pm

      Aww – we do so much for our children, before they’re even born! :)

  16. 22nd July 2015 / 10:11 am

    Great to read all these different experiences. Mine was painful! Not an experience to be repeated. Fab post hun and thanks for linking up to #TheList xx

    • 22nd July 2015 / 10:17 am

      We go through such a lot to bring out babies into the world! :) x

  17. Caro | The Twinkles Mama
    23rd July 2015 / 10:15 pm

    Love this Mim!! I read it all with much interest!! The twins were transverse so I had an elective c-section and missed out on the whole labour thing. Shame cos I was really looking forward to the experience!! Some think I’m mad for looking forward to it but I really was — I’d heard so many different accounts from my friends, I wanted to experience it myself!! Maybe in another life… Thanks so much for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday — hope to see you again next week! x

    • 28th August 2015 / 7:55 pm

      Ooh I thought I had replied! Thank you :) :) :) x

  18. Mumma McD
    24th July 2015 / 7:35 am

    My two were both so different – first one was posterior, 3 days of labour and horrendously painful! I ended up being induced, having an epidural and then being unable to walk due to pelvic ‘trauma’ for several days afterwards. Second time around was a dream – 3 hours from start to finish with 25 mins of pushing, on just a couple of paracetamol, and I was up, showered and ready to go home less than an hour after delivery!

    • 28th August 2015 / 7:57 pm

      Ooh 3 hours sounds perfect – just about enough ha!! x

  19. Emma's Mamma
    24th July 2015 / 10:41 am

    What a great idea for a post! I had horrible pains but never an urge to push. Turned out Emma was back to back. I ended up having an epidural which was a very welcome break from the pain. Think I’ll have a look at hypobirth if a have another – sounds great! x #TheList

    • 28th August 2015 / 7:57 pm

      Thank you! I never had the urge to push either both times – that’s the only thing that confused me! :) x

  20. 24th July 2015 / 1:48 am

    I was always terrified by the thought of being pregnant and giving birth. It wasn’t any better second time, even though I had done it before – probably because it is having no control over it that I don’t like, & that doesn’t change however many times you do it! My labours were both very quick (the second ridiculously so), but because everything progressed very fast the contractions were always very close and very intense & made me sick. Interesting to read lots of different experiences – good idea for a post! #TheList

    • 28th August 2015 / 7:56 pm

      I hate not being in control too – hynobirthing definitely helped me with that a bit :) Your second labour was super quick!! x

  21. Catherine @pushingthemoon
    24th July 2015 / 2:22 pm

    Love this post! My two labours were so different – both home births but the first was 36 hours and difficult resulting in a transfer to hospital and a stay on NICU for my son, and the second was 6 hours from first twinge to delivery and perfect in every way. Xxx #TheList

    • 28th August 2015 / 8:01 pm

      Ooh 6 hours sounds great! x

  22. 24th July 2015 / 11:20 am

    It’s so different for everyone isn’t it. My last labour was fine, just normal aches and pains until I went into transition. Then it was pretty significant. Fortunately baby arrived within 18 minutes, so it wasn’t for long really. Phew! #thelist

    • 28th August 2015 / 7:58 pm

      It really is :) Wow 18 minutes, that’s nice and fast for the last slog! x

  23. 24th July 2015 / 11:45 am

    My mummy had a water birth with me. Awful back pain, hot spiky pineapple giving birth. Nice! Great informative post…nice getting everyone’s perspectives #TheList

    • 28th August 2015 / 7:59 pm

      Ha ha pineapple – you babies are hard work! :) x

  24. 24th July 2015 / 1:09 pm

    Thanks for sharing your story, I like to hear other peoples experiences. It’s always so different from every person and baby. I was strangely calm leading up to both births, everyone said I was unusually relaxed. I wasn’t nervous at all, just excited. I had great births both times, it wasn’t overly painful (the pushing) the contractions were like something I’ve never experienced and I was surprised the birth itself was less painful than those! #thelist

    • 28th August 2015 / 8:00 pm

      It’s amazing what we’re capable of isn’t it :) I’m so pleased you had such great experiences! x

  25. 24th July 2015 / 8:05 pm

    I think what this shows is that everyone’s experience is different. I have had four very painful, very long, very difficult labours, two of which were induced. Each time I had another baby I was told they would just pop out but my babies just aren’t born like that #TheList

    • 28th August 2015 / 8:01 pm

      I assumed my second would be much faster too – but noooo ha! x

  26. Claire
    26th July 2015 / 3:21 am

    Oh my gosh – I just had my third baby and despite being a 2-time veteran of the birthing process, I still found myself up at night Googling things like “am I in early labor?” LOL. I LOVE reading birth stories because each is so unique and they’re such an amazing and beautiful part of the human experience!!

    I’ve had 3 pretty quick labors. The longest was the 3rd and it was only about 7 hours (5 of which I kept thinking it might not really be the real thing).

    Mine were all different – but each one was amazing!!!!

    • 28th August 2015 / 8:02 pm

      Ha ha I’m so glad it wasn’t just me! x

  27. 2nd August 2015 / 3:13 pm

    Im currently 19 weeks pregnant with baby 3.. daughter 1- was in lots of pain so went to the hospital, they gave me pethedine which stopped everything a few days later in apain again so went back and had an epidural (I was 20, I wasnt with babies dad & things wernt good between me and him so I was majorly stressed and scared!) I had my mum with me. she was due to be forced out (induction booked) for 8am that same morning she was born 3am, 5 hours before getting the boot! 12 days late.

    daughter 2- Normal day, OH got up for work, I contacted him about 9.30 saying I had stomach ache, he said he would make his way home from work, I told him it would probably stop soon! but he came home anyways. about 10.30 he was home and we where packing the hospital bag as pain was getting worse and I hadnt packed one yet.. 11 ish we called his sister to take us to the hospital, we got to the hospital and they said I was already 9 cm dialated, they broke my waters and within an hour Id had her, by 1.30 I was back home.. She was a week early and my partner was much better support than my dear mum was first time round!

    So this time Im planning on staying home for the birth, and hopefully hes as quick as his sister!

    • 2nd August 2015 / 6:47 pm

      Wow that’s awesome! And how wonderful to have your partner to support you – it can make all the difference having a supportive person there :) Good luck with your next one! :)

  28. 27th August 2015 / 1:36 am

    I think that is the point isn’t it – that everyone’s experience is different. I have had 4 babies, each different but the first, third and fourth all long, painful and difficult. 2 out of the 4 were inductions and all babies were between 9 and 14 days overdue. My second was a water birth and the only one to be born the correct way around, the other 3 were all back to back and the first was a forceps delivery. #brilliantblogposts

    • 27th August 2015 / 7:39 am

      It’s crazy how different they are – I had 2 back to backs as well – ‘fun’! x

  29. 27th August 2015 / 8:06 am

    Wow so many different experiences. It is so hard to describe the feeling too. Both my boys were inductions. I started with lower back pain and period type pains and very quickly was in full labour. #brilliant blog posts

    • 27th August 2015 / 7:02 pm

      Your experience sounds very similar to my first one! :)

  30. 27th August 2015 / 8:14 am

    So interesting how we all experience labour so differently! My waters broke then I was having contractions every 3mins from the off!! Found your post via #brilliantblogposts, enjoyed reading everyone’s experiences!

    • 27th August 2015 / 7:01 pm

      Wow that was quick! I love hearing about everyone’s different experiences :)

  31. 27th August 2015 / 4:19 pm

    Really interesting to hear a range of mums’ experiences of labour! I’m currently 29 weeks pregnant, and even though I’ve done it all before my daughter is 3), I’m still a little nervous as to what to expect this time round.

    • 27th August 2015 / 7:01 pm

      Ooh I hope you’re feeling well! I wish you a lovely labour :) :)

  32. 27th August 2015 / 9:40 pm

    As a man who will never know what labour feels like, this was a really interesting post. I think it’s great to read how different and unique the experience is for each mother. Great stuff. #BrilliantBlogPosts

    • 28th August 2015 / 8:04 pm

      Thank you! I should do a follow up asking for the man’s perspective to see how they differed to! :)

  33. 28th August 2015 / 4:24 pm

    It just goes to show everyone labour’s differently. With my first I was climbing the walls, with the second I was much more in control. Maybe I had a lot more confidence in my body and myself that I could get through this.
    It really is a very different pain from an illness, I guarantee I’ve been in lots more pain than giving birth since having the 2 boys. At least the pain comes and goes and allows you to prepare yourself.
    The other positive is you know it’s normal to be in pain and why. You will get the most amazing gift at the end of it. :-)

    • 28th August 2015 / 8:05 pm

      That’s so true – same for me, every time I had a contraction it was getting me closer to meeting my baby :) x

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